Over the last few months there has been a lot of upheaval in our household. My husband and I are splitting up and things are being divided up. When you have two cats with as close a relationship as ours though the idea of splitting them was not to be entertained. In the end it was a simple decision as I was staying put in the house and my husband was moving into rented with no pets allowed. How does divorce affect your pets though?
Obviously, it’s a tricky one as you can’t explain to a pet what is going on. They have no real understanding of the complexities of human relationships. Our cats are nearly 15 years old and have lived with both of us since they were kittens, so it is a big change. What it has meant for our cats is that my husband is no longer around and my son isn’t always here either. To be honest I’m not sure Amber is that fussed. He liked my husband, but they didn’t have a close relationship and it was me he always sought out. I don’t think he misses H that much either when he’s not there: he probably enjoys the peace and the fact that there is less competition for my attention. I’m so glad it has worked out ok for him as he has a heart murmur and the last thing he needs is stress.
Bracken though is a different matter. Bracken was my husband’s cat and she was very fond of him. He was the one she always homed in on. She does seem a little lost without him. Luckily for her she’s always been quite keen on H too and she’s transferred more of her affection and attention there. Yes, he isn’t around all the time, but he spends more time with me than his Dad, so it isn’t too bad for her. She will sit on my lap if there is no one better around and I try to make more of a fuss of her than I used to.